Hadith on Kindness: The Prophet did not want to hurt his feelings

Al-Sa’b ibn Jathamah reported: He presented the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, with a wild donkey as a gift when he was at Al-Abwa, or Waddan, and the Prophet returned it to him. When the Prophet saw the look of disappointment on his face, he said, “Indeed, we have only returned it because we are performing the pilgrimage right now.”

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 2573, Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2066

Grade: Muttafaqun Alayhi (authenticity agreed upon) according to Al-Bukhari and Muslim

Al-Nawawi said, “In this tradition, it is recommended that one who does not accept a gift offer an excuse and apologies to the giver as kindness to assure his heart.”

Source: Sharḥ al-Nawawī ‘alá Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 8/107

عَنِ الصَّعْبِ بْنِ جَثَّامَةَ اللَّيْثِيِّ أَنَّهُ أَهْدَى لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حِمَارًا وَحْشِيًّا وَهُوَ بِالْأَبْوَاءِ أَوْ بِوَدَّانَ فَرَدَّهُ عَلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ فَلَمَّا أَنْ رَأَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا فِي وَجْهِي قَالَ إِنَّا لَمْ نَرُدَّهُ عَلَيْكَ إِلَّا أَنَّا حُرُمٌ

2573 صحيح البخاري كتاب الهبة وفضلها والتحريض عليها باب قبول هدية الصيد

2066 صحيح مسلم كتاب الحج باب تحريم الصيد للمحرم

قال النووي وَفِيهِ أَنَّهُ يُسْتَحَبُّ لِمَنِ امْتَنَعَ مِنْ قَبُولِ هَدِيَّةٍ وَنَحْوِهَا لِعُذْرٍ أَنْ يَعْتَذِرَ بِذَلِكَ إِلَى الْمُهْدِيِ تَطْيِيبًا لِقَلْبِهِ

8/107 صحيح مسلم بشرح النووي كِتَاب الْحَجِّ أهدي للمحرم حمارا وحشيا حيا

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Abu Amina Elias
Abu Amina Elias (Justin Parrott) is an academic librarian, researcher, and translator specializing in the Quran, Hadith, and their commentaries. He is a former instructor of Islamic Creed for Mishkah University.
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