Abu Huraira reported: It was said to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “Which wives are best?” The Prophet said, “One who pleases him when he looks at her, obeys him when he requests her, and does not oppose him in regards to intimacy with herself or spending his wealth in her possession in ways he dislikes.”
Source: Sunan al-Nasā’ī 3231
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut
Imam Ibn Nujaym said, “A woman is not obligated to obey her husband in everything he commands. This only applies to matters related to marriage and its corollaries, especially if his command causes her harm.”
Source: al-Baḥr al-Rā’iq Sharḥ Kanz al-Daqā’iq 5/77
عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ قِيلَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَيُّ النِّسَاءِ خَيْرٌ قَالَ الَّتِي تَسُرُّهُ إِذَا نَظَرَ وَتُطِيعُهُ إِذَا أَمَرَ وَلَا تُخَالِفُهُ فِي نَفْسِهَا وَمَالِهَا بِمَا يَكْرَهُ
3231 سنن النسائي كتاب النكاح أي النساء خير
3/98 المحدث شعيب الأرناؤوط خلاصة حكم المحدث إسناده صحيح في تخريج سنن أبي داود
قال ابن نجيم الْمَرْأَة لَا يَجِبُ عَلَيْهَا طَاعَةُ الزَّوْجِ فِي كُلِّ مَا يَأْمُرُ بِهِ إنَّمَا ذَلِكَ فِيمَا يَرْجِعُ إلَى النِّكَاحِ وَتَوَابِعِهِ خُصُوصًا إذَا كَانَ فِي أَمْرِهِ إضْرَارٌ بِهَا
5/77 البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق
