Ibn Abi ‘Azrah reported: A man in the time of Umar said to his wife, “I adjure you by Allah, do you love me?” She said, “As you adjured me by Allah, I do not.” The man went out until he came to Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, so he sent for her. Umar said to her, “Are you the one who told her husband you did not love him?” She said, “O commander of the faithful, he adjured me by Allah. Should I fib?” Umar said, “Yes, you should fib. Not all households are built upon love, but rather people get along by Islam and good manners.”
Source: Masāwi’ al-Akhlāq lil-Kharā’iṭī 178
عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي عَزْرَةَ أَنَّ رَجُلًا فِي عَهْدِ عُمَرَ قَالَ لِزَوْجَتِهِ نَشَدْتُك بِاَللَّهِ هَلْ تُحِبِّينِي فَقَالَتْ أَمَا إذَا نَشَدَتْنِي بِاَللَّهِ فَلَا فَخَرَجَ الرَّجُلُ حَتَّى أَتَى عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ فَأَرْسَلَ إلَيْهَا فَقَالَ أَنْتِ الَّتِي تَقُولِينَ لِزَوْجِك لَا أُحِبُّك فَقَالَتْ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ نَشَدَنِي بِاَللَّهِ أَفَأَكْذِبُهُ قَالَ نَعَمْ فَأَكْذِبِيهِ لَيْسَ كُلُّ الْبُيُوتِ تُبْنَى عَلَى الْحُبِّ وَلَكِنَّ النَّاسَ يَتَعَاشَرُونَ بِالْإِسْلَامِ وَالْإِحْسَانِ
178 مساوئ الأخلاق للخرائطي باب ما يرخص فيه من الكذب
