Sa’d ibn Abi Waqqas reported: The mother of Sa’d swore an oath not to speak to him ever again unless he renounced his religion, nor would she eat or drink. She said, “You claim that Allah has commanded you to be kind to your parents, yet I am your mother and I command you to do this!” She continued for three days until she fainted from the effort. One of her sons named ‘Umarah gave her water to drink, then she started praying against Sa’d. Allah Almighty revealed this verse in the Quran, “If they pressure you to associate with Me what you have no knowledge of, do not obey them. Still keep their company in this world courteously.” (31:15)
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 1784
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Muslim
Imam Ibn al-Qayyim commented, “It is neither righteousness nor good conduct to leave one’s father or mother in need or poverty if one has wealth. Allah Almighty has condemned those who cut their family ties and magnified the gravity of their sin, and He mandated fulfilling their rights even if they are unbelievers… Maintaining family ties is obligatory even with unbelievers. One has his religion and the other relative has their religion.”
Source: Aḥkām Ahl al-Dhimmah 2/792
عَنِ سَعْدِ بْنِ أَبِي وَقَّاصٍ قَالَ حَلَفَتْ أُمُّ سَعْدٍ أَنْ لَا تُكَلِّمَهُ أَبَدًا حَتَّى يَكْفُرَ بِدِينِهِ وَلَا تَأْكُلَ وَلَا تَشْرَبَ قَالَتْ زَعَمْتَ أَنَّ اللَّهَ وَصَّاكَ بِوَالِدَيْكَ وَأَنَا أُمُّكَ وَأَنَا آمُرُكَ بِهَذَا قَالَ مَكَثَتْ ثَلَاثًا حَتَّى غُشِيَ عَلَيْهَا مِنَ الْجَهْدِ فَقَامَ ابْنٌ لَهَا يُقَالُ لَهُ عُمَارَةُ فَسَقَاهَا فَجَعَلَتْ تَدْعُو عَلَى سَعْدٍ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ فِي الْقُرْآنِ هَذِهِ الآية وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًا
1784 صحيح مسلم كتاب فضائل الصحابة باب في فضل سعد بن أبي وقاص
قال ابن القيم وَلَيْسَ مِنَ الْإِحْسَانِ وَلَا مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِ تَرْكُ أَبِيهِ وَأُمِّهِ فِي غَايَةِ الضَّرُورَةِ وَالْفَاقَةِ وَهُوَ فِي غَايَةِ الْغِنَى وَقَدْ ذَمَّ اللَّهُ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى قَاطِعِي الرَّحِمِ وَعَظَّمَ قَطِيعَتَهَا وَأَوْجَبَ حَقَّهَا وَإِنْ كَانَتْ كَافِرَةً … وَصِلَةُ الرَّحِمِ وَاجِبَةٌ وَإِنْ كَانَتْ لِكَافِرٍ فَلَهُ دِينُهُ وَلِلْوَاصِلِ دِينُهُ
2/792 أحكام أهل الذمة ذكر نكاح أهل الذمة ومناكحتهم فصل الإنفاق على الأقارب من أهل الكفر
