Abdu Samad reported: Al-Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “If a man comes to you complaining about another man, then say: O brother, forgive him, as forgiveness is closer to righteousness. If he says my heart cannot tolerate forgiveness, but rather retaliation as Allah Almighty has commanded me, then say: If …
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Ibn Hibban reported: Abu Hatim, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Forbearance is most graceful when it is given despite having the power to take revenge.” Source: Rawḍat al-‘Uqalā 99 عن ابن حبان قال قال أَبُو حاتم رَضِيَ اللَّه عنه والحلم أجمل مَا يكون من المقتدر على الانتقام 99 روضة العقلاء
Ubayy ibn Ka’b reported: On the day of the battle of Uhud, sixty-four of the Ansar and six of the Muhajirun had fallen, one of whom was Hamza, and the enemy mutilated their bodies. The Ansar said, “If we kill any of them in the future, we will do the same to them by twice …
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Ali ibn Abi Talib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, taught me to say when I was afflicted with distress, “There is no God but Allah, the Forbearing, the Noble. Glory be to Allah, blessed is Allah the Lord of the Great Throne, and all praise is due to Allah …
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Ibn Abbas reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, would say at a time of distress, “There is no God but Allah, the Knowing, the Forbearing. There is no God but Allah, Lord of the Great Throne. There is no God but Allah, Lord of the heavens, the earth, and the Noble Throne.” …
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, the most beloved to me are those of you with the best character, soft in nature, friendly and befriended. The most hateful of you to Allah are those who spread gossip, who cause discord between loved ones and seek misery …
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Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “The strong are not those who defeat people. Rather, the strong are those who defeat their own ego.” Source: Sharḥ Mushkil al-Āthār 1645 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Arna’ut عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ لَيْسَ …
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Al-Ahnaf ibn Qays reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, give me a word that will benefit me, but keep it short so I can understand it.” The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do not be angry.” The man repeated that question and each time the Prophet said, “Do …
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Abdullah ibn Amr reported: He asked the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “What will distance me from the anger of Allah?” The Prophet said, “Do not get angry.” Source: Musnad Aḥmad 6597 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ahmad Shakir عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو أَنَّهُ سَأَلَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ …
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Humayd reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, instruct me.” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do not be angry.” The man said, “I reflected upon what the Prophet said, and it occurred to me that anger gives rise to every evil.” Source: Musnad Aḥmad 23171 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to …
Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “There is no forbearance unless one has blundered, and there is no wisdom unless one has experience.” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2033 Grade: Hasan (fair) according to Al-Tirmidhi عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ لَا حَلِيمَ …
Hadith on Wisdom: No wisdom unless one has experience of age Read More »
Imam al-Shafi’i, may Allah be pleased with him, said in his poetry, “If a fool speaks to you, do not answer him, for the best answer is silence. If you speak to him, you have delighted him. If you leave him, he nearly dies in anguish.” Source: Dīwān al-Imām al-Shāfi’ī 38 Al-Ajurri said about the …
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Abu Nu’aym reported: Fudayl ibn ‘Iyad, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “It has been said that among the character of the prophets and chosen elect is the purity of their hearts. They are three characteristics: forbearance, penitence, and a portion of prayer in the night.” Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 11718 عن أبي نعيم قَالَ …
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Abu Nu’aym reported: Ibrahim ibn Adham, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “It is said that nothing is harder upon Iblis (Satan) than a forbearing scholar. If he speaks, he speaks with knowledge. If he is silent, he is silent with forbearance.” Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 11446 عن أبي نعيم عَنْ إِبْرَاهِيمَ بْنَ أَدْهَمَ رحمه …
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Yahya ibn Sa’id reported: Abu Darda, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “I realized that people were like leaves with no thorns among them, but then they became thorns with no leaves among them. If you criticize them, they will criticize you. If you leave them alone, they will not leave you alone.” They …
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Abu Salil reported: Amr ibn al-‘As, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “The truly forbearing one is not one who is forbearing to those who tolerate him but insults whoever insults him. Rather, the truly forbearing one is forbearing to both those who tolerate him and to those who insult him.” Source: al-Mudārāh al-Nās …
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Sufyan reported: A man came to Ali ibn al-Husyan, may Allah be pleased with him, and he said to him, “Indeed, a man has harmed and disparaged you!” Ali said, “Come to him with us.” They departed with him and he saw that he would stand up for himself, so when they came to the …
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Ahmad ibn Hanbal reported: The companions of Ibn Mas’ud, may Allah be pleased with him, if they passed by people from whom they saw something they disapproved, they would say, “Take it easy, may Allah have mercy on you.” Source: al-Amr bil-Maʻrūf lil-Khallāl 1/25 عَنِ أَحْمَد بْن حَنْبَلٍ كَانَ أَصْحَابُ ابْنُ مَسْعُودٍ رضي الله عنه …
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Al-‘Ala ibn al-Musayyib reported: A horse was stolen from Al-Rabia’, may Allah have mercy on him, so the people sitting with him said, “Pray to Allah Almighty against him!” Al-Rabia’ said, “No, rather I will pray for him. O Allah, if he was rich, turn his heart. If he was poor, enrich him.” Source: al-Zuhd …
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Al-Mada’ini reported: It was said to Al-Ahnaf ibn Qays, may Allah have mercy on him, “What is manhood?” Al-Ahnaf said, “Forbearance at a time of anger, and forgiveness at a time of power.” Source: al-Murū’ah 64 عن الْمَدَائِنِي قَالَ قِيلَ لِلْأَحْنَفِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ رحمه الله مَا الْمُرُوءَةُ فَقَالَ الْحِلْمُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ وَالْعَفْوُ عِنْدَ الْقُدْرَةِ 64 المروءة …
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